I have had a heck of a month my friends.

A lot of activity; a lot of feelings; a lot of commotion.

What I find fascinating though, is that most (if not all) of the chaos I’ve experienced has been almost entirely in my own head.

Things I had decided were important haunted me.

Decisions I had made (or not yet made) took up many of my waking thoughts.

Failures I had deemed catastrophic, really weren’t a problem for anyone else.

I was so caught up in my own stories about what was and wasn’t happening, I wasn’t able to see the reality of the world.

It has truly been one of the most stressful months of my life in the last few years.

I wish I could say that I was able to fix things.

But I wasn’t.

I couldn’t.

Some things (both inside and outside of my head) were not fixable.

What I had to do (eventually, and with help), was to recognize the truth of it. Then… 
Let. It. Go.

Some days are just like that.

Some days I get stuck in my head, and I think my imagination is real.

Some days are grief-filled and troublesome.

But the real problem is not the bad days.

The problem is my judgment about the bad days.

When I believed that I was at cause for the stress, the stress got worse.

When I stepped back and just let myself have a “get-back-in-bed-and-pull-the-covers-over-my-head” day,

somehow it got better.

I did one other thing… 

I reached out to people.
People who see my wholeness, even when I cannot.

My musings this month are dedicated to reminding you, what I myself was reminded – 

You are not your thoughts.

And bad days are not the end of the world.

And I will hold you in your wholeness, as my people have held me.


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